The phoenix begins to rise…

I always thought that my healing would come slowly.  Over the course of years, instead of weeks and months.  Maybe I would get lucky and have a breakthrough moment every week or month. But no, much more has happened--and much faster--than that. Once again, I find myself in a situation that is surreal and unexpected.  …

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Epilogue (one month later)…

(Don't worry - even though the title of this post may imply some kind of ending, I'm not shutting this blog down.  I'm going to keep it going.  There is a lot of healing to do, after all.  I still have lots of information to share.  There's a whole new journey going on now.) It'll …

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A second look…

Perhaps I didn't give myself enough credit in my last post.  And certainly not the post before that.  I'd driveled on about snakes and failure, respectively, but I hadn't truly shed any light on exactly how far I have come. All it takes is a look back.  If knowledge is power (and it is), then …

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Time Capsule: the first year (sort of) post-narcissism

It feels like I've failed, but I've succeeded. It also feels like I've succeeded, but I've failed. On the one hand, I have successfully extricated my heart and its emotions from all of the pathological narcissists / psychopaths in my life.  The peptide bonds and my addiction to them have been broken.  Although the divorce …

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Don’t jump the gun.

It's tempting, I know - beginning to consider jumping back into the dating pool again immediately after untangling yourself from a narcissistic or psychopathic relationship.  It's as if we might feel somehow empowered by seeking out another mate, a sign of recovery if we can put ourselves back out there and reignite the ability to …

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