A second look…

Perhaps I didn't give myself enough credit in my last post.  And certainly not the post before that.  I'd driveled on about snakes and failure, respectively, but I hadn't truly shed any light on exactly how far I have come. All it takes is a look back.  If knowledge is power (and it is), then …

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Time Capsule: the first year (sort of) post-narcissism

It feels like I've failed, but I've succeeded. It also feels like I've succeeded, but I've failed. On the one hand, I have successfully extricated my heart and its emotions from all of the pathological narcissists / psychopaths in my life.  The peptide bonds and my addiction to them have been broken.  Although the divorce …

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When the rain washes you clean you’ll know.

I write this from the makeshift-and-surprisingly-homey home office of my spirit-brother - yes, the very same one who broke my heart nearly 8 months ago, only to level up with me once I'd put said heart back together again, and then go one (or more) step(s) further yet and come through for me when I …

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They said I’d get angry

The group appeared at just the right time in my life.  The universe (or whatever you prefer to call it) just works that way.  My Amazing Bestie, who got divorced last year, wisely threw herself into a divorce support group, forming bonds with a few select members, and the rest became history. It didn't take …

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Time Capsule: the first month post-narcissism

It's actually been five weeks since the breakup, and a month and a day since I began this blog (already??).  I'd say time flies, but it doesn't always.  Some of the weekend days drag on for much longer than they probably should. While the past is the past and all that, I find it important …

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Nourishing vs Narcissism

In the last post, I talked about nourishment, of the soul/spirit variety.  This is crucial for anyone, a basic fundamental need.  However, it's absolutely essential for anyone recovering from a narcissistic relationship (or those still in one, for any one of many legitimate reasons), to shift this concept into primary focus. Most survivors of narcissistic …

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More red flags – the things you find yourself doing

It may seem monotonous, even overkill, to keep writing about red flags, but I'm feeling the need to do it anyway.  Maybe it's part of my healing process, the stage where you need to reflect, which might appear to some to be code for analyzing, ruminating, justifying...but to me feels more like reminding oneself of …

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