In the thick of it all…kind of

I know it's been a long time, gorgeous ones.  There's more to do than I have time--and can remember--to do, so I end up not getting to do everything, and then I feel a bit guilty and sheepish until I remind myself that I'm human, after all. The past several weeks have felt like being …

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I’m okay being single

There - I said it.  I never thought I would.  I'd always been the type to crave and desire love, the type that seeks out a new partner the millisecond a relationship is over. But let's face it, dear ones: after having been through (decades of) narcissistic and psychopathic abuse, I know that another relationship …

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Catching my breath (and sharing my strategies)…

Dear ones.  This post is for you.  It's for anybody out there who might be going through something similar, or for anyone with a loved one in this situation. Because I'm sure I'm not the only one.  People like my soon-to-be-ex are out there.  They hide where you least expect them.  They make headline news.  …

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Picking up the pieces…

Self-doubt (personified, in my most recent post) - about whether or not I should go through with a divorce after all - has been permanently evicted.  I even threw away the proverbial beer cans and wiped off the proverbial coffee table. Nine days ago, the gavel banged so hard on that decision that it cracked …

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I suppose I *could* gaslight myself…

When you're planning to leave a narcissist or otherwise toxic partner, it requires a lot of preparation, which occurs on its own timeline, and cannot be rushed.  And it's actually the smoother times (comparatively speaking) that are the hardest.  When they're not actually being all that abusive.  When they are actually being more helpful and …

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