A week in the (healing) life…

Healing is wobbly.  People sometimes envision the healing process as a set of stairs, but they may leave out the fact that sometimes those stairs can be made of crumbly stone, or earth that shifts unexpectedly.  There are random pits of quicksand, too.  Lots to navigate. During the healing process, you level up in a …

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Time Capsule: the first month post-narcissism

It's actually been five weeks since the breakup, and a month and a day since I began this blog (already??).  I'd say time flies, but it doesn't always.  Some of the weekend days drag on for much longer than they probably should. While the past is the past and all that, I find it important …

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Navigating iffy waters…

"How well do you understand what's happening to you?" That was the genuine, non-condescending, realistic question from my counselor yesterday afternoon that got me thinking. Initially I thought it might be sort of a trick question, with a right answer and a wrong one.  I thought carefully, trying to consider every possible angle, mentally squinting …

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Not my first rodeo…

On Saturday, my world changed.  It was a tiny shift, but an important one.  I'd gotten together with my Amazing Bestie, and we went walking around outside.  This has been an activity that has historically stimulated and brought forward my introspective side.  Random thoughts pop into my head, and random dots connect, aligning seamlessly and …

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‘Who nourishes _you_?’

The question stopped me cold, during last week's therapy session. I had to stop and think.  The mind goes down a list, starting with partners (plural - one ex and one husband) first.  When you're just coming off of the addiction that is a narcissistic relationship, your mind is wired to automatically think of them …

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The importance of self-honesty

I've mentioned before that I've found it incredibly helpful, at least in hindsight, to have been honest with myself, and today I want to expand on that.  Of course, "hindsight" is the operative term, for I didn't have (take) the time to go back over  my journals until much later, after the complete dissolution of …

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