A week in the (healing) life…

Healing is wobbly.  People sometimes envision the healing process as a set of stairs, but they may leave out the fact that sometimes those stairs can be made of crumbly stone, or earth that shifts unexpectedly.  There are random pits of quicksand, too.  Lots to navigate. During the healing process, you level up in a …

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Some codependency and narcissistic relationship recovery tactics…

It's been a fast past week.  Lisa Romano has been in my head.  She totally gets this narcissistic relationship and codependency recovery thing.  She's been there, to hell and back. And you thought you were alone, dear one.  Right?  I know I did. Because it feels so alone, so very alone, and you almost feel …

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Release from the narcissistic prison

Narcissistic relationships are like a prison.  They control, dictate, isolate, and alienate.  They can turn you into someone else, maybe even someone you no longer recognize.  Through manipulation tactics such as gaslighting, deflection, distraction, projection, future-faking, and threats, we are often slowly whittled down into shadows of our former selves... ...Or were we?  I might …

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Slipping and falling…and then picking myself back up again

Please forgive me, gorgeous ones; I'm still unpacking and processing and analyzing and doing all the things that empaths and codependents do in addiction recovery from a narcissistic relationship. The path to that recovery is not always linear; in fact, it rarely is.  Translation: we're going to slip and fall.  We're going to backtrack, regress. …

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