What a pathological narcissist / psychopath looks like on a dating website

I still sleuth, play detective, checking up on my soon-to-be-ex-husband.  This is important, because I still live under the same roof with him, and thus, his activities still have the potential to impact me. It's not that I like it.  It's not that I'm jealous.  It's not that I'm spiteful or vengeful.  It's not like …

Continue reading What a pathological narcissist / psychopath looks like on a dating website

The Prestige

The other night, I watched the movie "The Prestige" (2006), and my right-brain mind connected a dot or two.  For those who have not seen the movie, it's an expertly-crafted story of two rival magicians, each trying to outdo the other, wrapped end to end with deception, betrayal, loss, and sabotage (which in itself closely …

Continue reading The Prestige

Uncomfortable parallels…

Anyone who has ever been involved with a narcissist or psychopath needs to see the true crime docuseries "Evil Lives Here".  Each episode presents a poignant account of a violent criminal through interwoven interview segments with someone who knew the perpetrator very well (typically a relative or ex-partner) and staged reenactments that visually demonstrate what …

Continue reading Uncomfortable parallels…

All I ever needed to know I learned from living with a psychopath

They should really teach personality disorders in school.  Narcissism and psychopathy especially, should be taught in the basic curriculum, perhaps nestled into the Life Skills classes that teach you about balancing your checkbook or renting your first apartment.  Maybe a standalone unit of the class, called How To Recognize and Avoid a Narcissist or Psychopath, …

Continue reading All I ever needed to know I learned from living with a psychopath

Catching my breath (and sharing my strategies)…

Dear ones.  This post is for you.  It's for anybody out there who might be going through something similar, or for anyone with a loved one in this situation. Because I'm sure I'm not the only one.  People like my soon-to-be-ex are out there.  They hide where you least expect them.  They make headline news.  …

Continue reading Catching my breath (and sharing my strategies)…

Picking up the pieces…

Self-doubt (personified, in my most recent post) - about whether or not I should go through with a divorce after all - has been permanently evicted.  I even threw away the proverbial beer cans and wiped off the proverbial coffee table. Nine days ago, the gavel banged so hard on that decision that it cracked …

Continue reading Picking up the pieces…