In the grip…

Depression caught me at a vulnerable point this morning, stapled me to the floor (to borrow an apt analogy from a good friend). It all happens very quickly, so fast that it can leave you wondering what triggered it. Because there's always a trigger.  Or, more often, several. I conduct a mental rundown of a …

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Don’t jump the gun.

It's tempting, I know - beginning to consider jumping back into the dating pool again immediately after untangling yourself from a narcissistic or psychopathic relationship.  It's as if we might feel somehow empowered by seeking out another mate, a sign of recovery if we can put ourselves back out there and reignite the ability to …

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An average day in the life with a narcissist / psychopath

3:30-5:30am: Wake up instantly, for any reason, or none at all.  You may simply be Done Sleeping.  Or you may find yourself in a state of semi-paralyzing fear about something, such as the state of your finances, or whether the psychopath / narcissist is Misbehaving again. This Misbehavior you fear is a repeated pattern - …

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They said I’d get angry

The group appeared at just the right time in my life.  The universe (or whatever you prefer to call it) just works that way.  My Amazing Bestie, who got divorced last year, wisely threw herself into a divorce support group, forming bonds with a few select members, and the rest became history. It didn't take …

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My Has-Been Life

Certain aspects of my life have a poignant "has-been" feel to them.  I reckon this is common in divorces-in-progress, especially if that limbo state lasts for any significant length of time. This has-been phenomenon casts itself over certain life areas, such as certain people, places, or even routines that are currently active and relevant, painting …

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I’m okay being single

There - I said it.  I never thought I would.  I'd always been the type to crave and desire love, the type that seeks out a new partner the millisecond a relationship is over. But let's face it, dear ones: after having been through (decades of) narcissistic and psychopathic abuse, I know that another relationship …

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I’m a person too

I've reached the stage (of what, I'm not exactly sure) where the relentless burning desire to investigate and discover has been replaced with a mere mild curiosity that only floats through my mind occasionally.  Thinking about my soon-to-be-ex and his daily activities is almost like checking Facebook; it's no longer a compulsion, but a purely …

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