In the grip…

Depression caught me at a vulnerable point this morning, stapled me to the floor (to borrow an apt analogy from a good friend). It all happens very quickly, so fast that it can leave you wondering what triggered it. Because there's always a trigger.  Or, more often, several. I conduct a mental rundown of a …

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An average day in the life with a narcissist / psychopath

3:30-5:30am: Wake up instantly, for any reason, or none at all.  You may simply be Done Sleeping.  Or you may find yourself in a state of semi-paralyzing fear about something, such as the state of your finances, or whether the psychopath / narcissist is Misbehaving again. This Misbehavior you fear is a repeated pattern - …

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What a pathological narcissist / psychopath looks like on a dating website

I still sleuth, play detective, checking up on my soon-to-be-ex-husband.  This is important, because I still live under the same roof with him, and thus, his activities still have the potential to impact me. It's not that I like it.  It's not that I'm jealous.  It's not that I'm spiteful or vengeful.  It's not like …

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Uncomfortable parallels…

Anyone who has ever been involved with a narcissist or psychopath needs to see the true crime docuseries "Evil Lives Here".  Each episode presents a poignant account of a violent criminal through interwoven interview segments with someone who knew the perpetrator very well (typically a relative or ex-partner) and staged reenactments that visually demonstrate what …

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All I ever needed to know I learned from living with a psychopath

They should really teach personality disorders in school.  Narcissism and psychopathy especially, should be taught in the basic curriculum, perhaps nestled into the Life Skills classes that teach you about balancing your checkbook or renting your first apartment.  Maybe a standalone unit of the class, called How To Recognize and Avoid a Narcissist or Psychopath, …

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Catching my breath (and sharing my strategies)…

Dear ones.  This post is for you.  It's for anybody out there who might be going through something similar, or for anyone with a loved one in this situation. Because I'm sure I'm not the only one.  People like my soon-to-be-ex are out there.  They hide where you least expect them.  They make headline news.  …

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