Time Capsule: the first year (sort of) post-narcissism

It feels like I've failed, but I've succeeded. It also feels like I've succeeded, but I've failed. On the one hand, I have successfully extricated my heart and its emotions from all of the pathological narcissists / psychopaths in my life.  The peptide bonds and my addiction to them have been broken.  Although the divorce …

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Don’t jump the gun.

It's tempting, I know - beginning to consider jumping back into the dating pool again immediately after untangling yourself from a narcissistic or psychopathic relationship.  It's as if we might feel somehow empowered by seeking out another mate, a sign of recovery if we can put ourselves back out there and reignite the ability to …

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When the rain washes you clean you’ll know.

I write this from the makeshift-and-surprisingly-homey home office of my spirit-brother - yes, the very same one who broke my heart nearly 8 months ago, only to level up with me once I'd put said heart back together again, and then go one (or more) step(s) further yet and come through for me when I …

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They said I’d get angry

The group appeared at just the right time in my life.  The universe (or whatever you prefer to call it) just works that way.  My Amazing Bestie, who got divorced last year, wisely threw herself into a divorce support group, forming bonds with a few select members, and the rest became history. It didn't take …

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I’m okay being single

There - I said it.  I never thought I would.  I'd always been the type to crave and desire love, the type that seeks out a new partner the millisecond a relationship is over. But let's face it, dear ones: after having been through (decades of) narcissistic and psychopathic abuse, I know that another relationship …

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