They said I’d get angry

The group appeared at just the right time in my life.  The universe (or whatever you prefer to call it) just works that way.  My Amazing Bestie, who got divorced last year, wisely threw herself into a divorce support group, forming bonds with a few select members, and the rest became history. It didn't take …

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A glimpse of freedom and relief

You never know what you got 'til it's gone, right? Typically, that line takes on a wistful or maybe even sad context, insinuating some kind of loss, grief, or a general bummed-out feeling. My perspective this last weekend was just the opposite. The story begins with the semi-last-minute "oh by the way" text from my …

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My Has-Been Life

Certain aspects of my life have a poignant "has-been" feel to them.  I reckon this is common in divorces-in-progress, especially if that limbo state lasts for any significant length of time. This has-been phenomenon casts itself over certain life areas, such as certain people, places, or even routines that are currently active and relevant, painting …

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I’m okay being single

There - I said it.  I never thought I would.  I'd always been the type to crave and desire love, the type that seeks out a new partner the millisecond a relationship is over. But let's face it, dear ones: after having been through (decades of) narcissistic and psychopathic abuse, I know that another relationship …

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I’m a person too

I've reached the stage (of what, I'm not exactly sure) where the relentless burning desire to investigate and discover has been replaced with a mere mild curiosity that only floats through my mind occasionally.  Thinking about my soon-to-be-ex and his daily activities is almost like checking Facebook; it's no longer a compulsion, but a purely …

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What a pathological narcissist / psychopath looks like on a dating website

I still sleuth, play detective, checking up on my soon-to-be-ex-husband.  This is important, because I still live under the same roof with him, and thus, his activities still have the potential to impact me. It's not that I like it.  It's not that I'm jealous.  It's not that I'm spiteful or vengeful.  It's not like …

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